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I was a Yankee baby, born in Framingham Union Hospital in Massachusetts. But I was raised a Georgia Peach! So I remember marching in the first parade celebrating the MLK holiday; making arts and crafts to commemorate the occasion; traveling up and down MLK to get to piano lessons or my grandmother’s place. But after those days of my youth, I went to Boston for college and remained there 21 years, after which I returned to Atlanta. However, in the 5 years since my relocation, I’ve not given any serious thought to the rich history of the city, much less revisited it.



That’s where I thank God for my sister Terri Tendai who has reconnected me this rich inheritance I have in Atlanta. She visited from Kenya and was – and remains – eager to learn about the history of the US given its role in the world as the dominant culture (the society from which the rest of the world derives its patterns; take a look at how the world dresses, sings and dances for examples). Presented with an opportunity to visit the Black Mecca of the South (my words, not hers!) we were sightseeing from the minute she landed in the city.


What We Saw

I won’t go into the details our excursions, but for someone who rarely travels off my beaten path, I think I did a good job showing her around:

  • MLK Center for Non-Violence
  • Auburn Avenue (formerly known the Black Wall Street and home of the first black millionaire)
  • Decaduh (holla!) or for all y’all proper folks “DecaTURRRR”
  • SWAT (Southwest Atlanta)
  • Buckhead (the 90210 of the South so I’ve heard)
  • National Center for Civil and Human Rights
  • CNN and Coke (in passing)
  • Vine City, Spelman, Morehouse, Clark Atlanta University
  • The new Death Star aka Mercedes Benz Stadium
  • Paschals for some soul food – I wanted a second helping of their collard greens! But because they ran out of ribs AND cornbread on Easter –
  • Lovies BBQ (where Terri also had fried okra)
  • Marietta (I’m sure you’re like WHAT is in Marietta??? I don’t know. This was an accidental but divinely orchestrated destination).


The Eternal Flame of Personal Commitment

Whew! That was a mouthful.

I will, however, share one picture that greatly spoke to me during our excursions: the Eternal Flame at the MLK Center.

The placard reads:

The Eternal Flame symbolizes the continuing effort to realize

Dr. King’s ideals for the “Beloved Community”

which requires lasting personal commitment that cannot weaken

when faced with obstacles.” (emphasis mine).


In all the talk about race relations, violence in our cities at the hands of the police and each other, and all the other ailments that plague our society, I feel that the importance of “personal commitment” is often minimized or overlooked.

However, it seems that this theme was so vital to the Kings and their life work that a similar sentiment is inscribed elsewhere on the site and attributed to Coretta Scott King:

“People who think nonviolence is easy don’t realize that it’s a spiritual discipline that requires a great deal of strength, growth, and purging of the self so that one can overcome almost any obstacle for the good of all without being concerned about one’s own welfare.”

– Coretta Scott King


Examining Ourselves

“Spiritual discipline,” “growth,” and “purging of the self” all stand out to me.

Can we as individuals take the steps necessary to daily purge ourselves? To take an honest inventory and acknowledge where we are strong? And also acknowledge where we are weak? Identify the inaccurate perspectives and understanding we have of those in our families? Of those in our communities? Of “Other” in general?

And then can we dare to allow God to redefine those inaccuracies? To remold our thinking? To restructure our very beings so that we aren’t the same, and therefore don’t “BE” and “DO” in the same old tired and ineffective way?


My Process

That’s what I’ve spent the last few days doing: taking a hard look at myself through the lens of God’s standards. I’ve discovered some great things to celebrate. And I’ve had to acknowledge the not-so-great things about myself that are less than stellar. I had to decide whether to embrace the old me and stay the same – or turn toward a new direction and learn new patterns.

Is it easy? No. Like Mrs. King said, such change speaks to a “spiritual discipline that requires a great deal of strength, growth and purging of the self.” And I would add honesty and transparency with yourself and God. But it is so worth it.

Even if no one else ever knows about my internal restructuring, I am already seeing fruit from the new positions I’ve taken. Has it changed the world yet? Has it even changed my home yet? Let’s just say “work in progress.” I’ve tripped over my own feet several times already, but I’m embracing grace and getting back up to continue learning to walk on this unbeaten path.


Play the Game? Or Be Transformed?

Without such processes of self-examination, self-awareness and personal change, we will continue to play at the game of transforming the world.

So – when the latest study comes out, when there’s another shooting at work or school and everyone wants to pray, when we’ve completed the latest “how to become aware” training – and we want to lament how little has changed since MLK’s assassination – we each should ask ourselves: How have I been transformed today that I might then go out and transform my world?



April Thomas

About April Thomas

As a music composer, performer and conductor, April brings a unique approach to diversity management, by merging the technical and creative concepts found in high-performance orchestras with the award-winning methodology of her father, the late Dr. R. Roosevelt Thomas, Jr., who was hailed globally as the Father of Diversity.


  • Tendai says:

    Beautifully written! Your life will now become this living epistle of strength, spiritual discipline, growth which is purged of self